How To Meet Women Online And Look For Love In Internet Chat Rooms

We all know someone who's met a partner or been for a date with someone they've met in an Internet Chat Room. They offer a great opportunity to meet new people from outside your current social circle however alot of internet chatters put up barriers when men approach them to chat. This article intends to show how you can increase your chances of meeting women in chatrooms on the internet without resorting to cheesy internet dating sites.

How can you Meet Women Online in Internet Chatrooms?

How to choose an Internet Chat Room.

A quick google search for Internet Chat Rooms in London, London Chat Rooms. Or if you're in New York or Los Angeles you can supplement that into your search such as 'Chat in NY'. Whatever area you are from you're likely to find a chat room close to you.

Why do you need to choose a chat room close to you?

If you would like to meet up with someone eventually it makes sense to have chat room conversations with someone relatively local to you. It increases your possibilities of meeting a partner online who you can potentially meet up with. It means conversations are more likely to be taken seriously with regards to a forming a long term relationship online.

Your chat room profile tells other chatters a large amount of information about you. Both on the screen and subliminally too.

Photo's- Women are likely to have a look at a profile before or during chatting so you need to give off a good impression

• Always have a photo where possible on your profile. Female chatters may assume you're trying to hide something from them if you don't have a profile picture.
• Always have a positive photo on your profile that shows a true likeness of you and if possible have a few photos. Make sure these look fairly professional and natural and are genuine photo's. Do not use photo shop to edit the photos unless you are an IT professional and can make subtle enhancements
• There is a time and place for seeing genitalia and realistically it's not on a chatroom profile.

Develop a good strong personal profile

• Say a few lines that are positive about yourself.
• Highlight any interests you have which women may relate to.
• Sadly Role Play Games are a turn off for some women (though not all!).
• Be up front and state that you're single if there is an option to do so.
• Get someone to review your profile and give you their opinion to ensure there is a level of quality apparent.
• DO NOT state that you are looking for a relationship- this shows desperation

Many chat rooms are well established communities where chatters have their own identities within the community in a similar way to normal everyday life in the non cyber domain. Therefore a chatter needs to take time to integrate into that community. This is a simple process which involves interacting with other chatters over time.

• Always provide a welcome introduction when entering into an internet chat room as this alerts others that you have entered the chat room.
• A welcome introduction provides other internet chatters the opportunity to engage in conversation and welcome you into the room. Ensure that you engage in this conversation as it provides a great way of breaking down barriers in a way established chat room environment.
• Engage in any banter within the room in a polite manner. This shows others that you have a good sense of humour and are conscientious towards others feelings.
• Try to talk in the room in a positive manner. Use others' negativity and on occasions try to turn it around to being a positive. This marks you out as a generally affable person to be around that looks at life as though it's a glass that is half full- not half empty.

Many Chat Rooms have the options to send Private Messages (PM's or sometimes called Individual Messages- IM's) which allow you to privately send a message to other chatters.

This is a great way of introducing yourself to women in Chat Rooms

Sadly a large number of men see this as an opportunity to approach women as well. If you have taken the above steps to integrate into the community it gives you a solid base to develop friendships. I say friendships as you must not push the relationship angle initially while getting to know someone. Use the private messages to get to know people. Chatters will see that you're involved in the main chat room and therefore more at ease talking with you as you can hold down normal conversation.

How to use private messaging in Chat Rooms to get to know women.

DO NOT ask these questions in your first conversation with a woman online.

"Are you single?"

At first you don't need to know this while chatting as you're getting to know the person. It is a very forward statement. Let the woman ask you this first as this can be a sign that she is interested in whether you are currently in a relationship.

"What's your bra size?"

You do not need to ask this as it will mark you out as a cyber pervert. You wouldn't ask this when getting to know a woman in person. The likelihood is that eventually you will get to see photos of a woman as conversation progresses and you'll be able to gauge her bra size from there if you really need to know! And heaven forbid asking her choice of underwear!

"Can I have you mobile number?"

This is a bit needy and desperate for a first conversation. Women are initially reluctant to take online cyber friendships further and therefore like things to develop over time. By asking for a mobile number first conversation this is pushing things too quickly. The only exception to this is asking for an MSN (Microsoft Messenger) or similar online IM system address if you have been talking for an extended period of time and you feel that you have developed a rapport with the person.

Over time as your conversations progress you can then establish whether the woman is a potential friend or even a potential lover.

Good luck chatting.

"Always be yourself when chatting online"

If you're looking for love it's not right to deceive people. You're looking for something long term.

Lies do not promote a healthy relationship.

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